* Looking around and seeing no one. Reaching out for a helping hand and not getting one back. Hoping for each time to get better ....but as each day passes you by another tribulation crosses your path setting you back. Struggling to rise but feeling like you wont survive. Pushing Pulling Turning Falling but trying your hardest to not give in. Looking up and seeing the big black cloud above your head getting bigger as you begin to feel hopeless.... Wishing & Hoping that a small ray of sunlight shines through that dark cloud and leads you to a sunny place. Not asking for much but hoping for the best. Good things come to those who wait but a decade has passed and yet the questions in which you have awaited answers for remain unanswered. Remembering that we do not live to regret the things in which we have done or gone through and keeping in mind that with everything you go through a lesson will be learned. Remembering that everyone out there is always looking to get off on the next weak link keeping your ducks in a line and playing your cards right will not allow you to be played like a fool.
* Feeling broken bashed and walked all over but remembering that you still have a lot of fight in you and will not give up. Reaching up high knowing success is the only option allowing no one to set you back from what you want not even that black cloud above your head. When you feel like all hope is gone just remember that its not and you are the key to your own destiny. Turn the frown upside down mend the pieces to your broken heart and allow no one to step and walk all over it again. Drying your tears and hiding your fears remembering something good is near.
*Wearing your heart on your sleeve allows others to see that you are ready to be hurt. Treasure the things dearest to you, your heart being one of them guard it with everything you have and release it to the one who is willing to put in the time to unlock the box. Proceed with caution Read between the Lines Ask questions and be knowledgeable no one wants to be the next puppeteers puppets nor do you want to be sold a lie in which you can not afford.
Thursday, December 29, 2011
Tuesday, December 27, 2011
LETTING GO & TRUSTING.
Okay so I am pretty sure many of you can relate to this current issue I have come across with not only my own personal life but with some close friends as well.... The issue is T R U S T! How can we forgive forget and move forward and put our trust into the next relationship? Not everyone is the same and we do not know how good of a person someone can be unless we give it a shot but how can you do that when you are hiding behind your wall and not letting one brick down to see what is on the other side? Conversation is great, personalities match, looks are there, but the fact that you must TRUST this person is kind of hard when you are looking for them to screw things up and do what everyone else does which is get up and walk away. How can you go from being beaten up verbally or physically to getting back into something new and not being afraid of what can happen?
We must learn to love and let go and not hold grudges but when you constantly find yourself back in the same spot how are you able to cope? We must learn to allow others in but not let others barge in and walk all over us. In order to get respect you must gain respect and respect starts at day *1* when you walk in to one another's lives. Easier said than done huh I understand but we can not just sit here alone sad and heartbroken due to our passed experiences. In order to be able to have that happy ending we must go through all the rough patches in life in order for the good things to come. If we do not go through the things that we have gone through we would not be the free spirited strong minded individuals that we turn out to be at the end.
We can not say everyone is the same when we are just choosing all of the same bad apples and not picking apples of a different type or from a different tree. When you are so accustomed to something its hard to just change it and accept the good but you must learn to walk an unknown path with the unknown person to see if it takes you to a place where you want to be. Opening up and allowing yourself to be loved is the hardest thing but knowing what you will allow and wont allow shall be the number one thing that crosses your mind going forward. Not repeating the same mistakes with different apples is what will teach us new life lessons. That one apple you didn't like might turn into the apple of your eye!
Learning and Letting go will have to be the one thing we must all learn to do.
Taking one brick off the wall at a time will be taking baby steps to what can be a bright future.
Tearing down that OLD apple tree and looking for a different one to pick from will be the next step.
Allowing others to show you who they really are and proving to you what they are capable of something different will have to be the part where we must learn to T R U S T others.
** No one will be able to love you the way you want if you have a pile of bricks or bad apples blocking the path to you. We must learn to Love and Let go of everything in which we have gone through in order to let the new things happen. **
We must learn to love and let go and not hold grudges but when you constantly find yourself back in the same spot how are you able to cope? We must learn to allow others in but not let others barge in and walk all over us. In order to get respect you must gain respect and respect starts at day *1* when you walk in to one another's lives. Easier said than done huh I understand but we can not just sit here alone sad and heartbroken due to our passed experiences. In order to be able to have that happy ending we must go through all the rough patches in life in order for the good things to come. If we do not go through the things that we have gone through we would not be the free spirited strong minded individuals that we turn out to be at the end.
We can not say everyone is the same when we are just choosing all of the same bad apples and not picking apples of a different type or from a different tree. When you are so accustomed to something its hard to just change it and accept the good but you must learn to walk an unknown path with the unknown person to see if it takes you to a place where you want to be. Opening up and allowing yourself to be loved is the hardest thing but knowing what you will allow and wont allow shall be the number one thing that crosses your mind going forward. Not repeating the same mistakes with different apples is what will teach us new life lessons. That one apple you didn't like might turn into the apple of your eye!
Learning and Letting go will have to be the one thing we must all learn to do.
Taking one brick off the wall at a time will be taking baby steps to what can be a bright future.
Tearing down that OLD apple tree and looking for a different one to pick from will be the next step.
Allowing others to show you who they really are and proving to you what they are capable of something different will have to be the part where we must learn to T R U S T others.
** No one will be able to love you the way you want if you have a pile of bricks or bad apples blocking the path to you. We must learn to Love and Let go of everything in which we have gone through in order to let the new things happen. **
Trust & Respect
Wednesday, December 21, 2011
Being responsible
Having a convo with a friend about how some people can not obtain responsibility and it just does not make any type of sense. This goes for males and females. I do not believe that any Gender can be excluded for anything. Everything that a female accuses a male for a Male is accusing a female for the same thing.
I am a single mom to a 4year little boy whom I must say is just truly amazing. I have not complained about doing it myself even when I get flustered and break down and cry. Would I have done things differently but of course I would but what is done is done. I live my life daily I work I go to school and I provide for the both of us. For those whom can not do the same but constantly complain about not getting child support or getting state assistance I do not think I have any respect for you (male or female). For those whom do not work or go to school but yet complain about sitting at home daily being bored or the children driving you crazy and you not having any help..... I do not have any respect for you! I can not feel sorry for someone (male or female) who does not take the steps in which you need to take to be Independent.
For every deadbeat baby daddy there is a deadbeat baby momma!
Neither one of the 2 genders is better than the other. I feel that we need to stop pointing the finger at one another and look down to see the ones who are really being affected by every ones immaturity.
How can you walk out of someones life and never once look back to see the pain in their eyes, wipe the tears off their cheek, put a bandage on their boo boo, or tuck them into bed at night and tell them there's no monsters under the bed? How can you allow yourself to disappoint someone who never asked to be here? These little ones never asked to come here and be mistreated lied too or left abused and abandoned so why must they suffer? Life is what you make it and these little ones need our help to become the best that they can possibly be... You can not give up on them and than be upset when they turn out to be someone you disapprove of. A unguided child will be a unguided adult.
Mothers You carry this child for 9months. This little person is apart of you for however many months you carry them. How do you have them and than just walk away from them and leave them? How can you let someone else care for the one that was in you for these months as you party hang out and not have a worry in the world. How would you feel if the world turned their back on you and you had no one love you care for you or made you feel like you do not matter.
How can you abandon you child and never provide anything for them or even send a card or anything. This goes for both Males and Females the same way one Gender can walk up and leave the child the other will do the same.
Sitting at home letting life pass you by as you complain about it.... How is this possible? You sit at home collect Cash Assistance for your child and Food stamps do not work and never have worked and yet you complain that you have nothing to do or that you have no where to go?! UmMm how about School and Work? These options are always available. How is it that Unemployed individuals whom are not trying to do anything with their selves get more assistance than those individuals who Work go to School and try their hardest to provide for their child/family? I do not understand how society works but it sure does teach you that Life is Not fair.
Since the age of 20 I have always worked went to school and tried my hardest to provide for my son. My sons father has never been there for my son and nor has he contributed to anything. I therefore have worked full time, continued on with my schooling, and have showed my son that when you try your hardest anything is possible. My goal is to make sure this little boy has the best life ever even if he doesn't have both parents. One parent can do just as much as 2 parents can. With that said regardless of who has custody of the child every ones main goal should be the child. Not bashing the child's other parent.
If everyone stepped up the plate and hit home runs the world would be a better place. Lets worry about hitting those home runs and being responsible for the ones that need us the most and not leave them sitting in the dugout worrying about their future.
I am a single mom to a 4year little boy whom I must say is just truly amazing. I have not complained about doing it myself even when I get flustered and break down and cry. Would I have done things differently but of course I would but what is done is done. I live my life daily I work I go to school and I provide for the both of us. For those whom can not do the same but constantly complain about not getting child support or getting state assistance I do not think I have any respect for you (male or female). For those whom do not work or go to school but yet complain about sitting at home daily being bored or the children driving you crazy and you not having any help..... I do not have any respect for you! I can not feel sorry for someone (male or female) who does not take the steps in which you need to take to be Independent.
For every deadbeat baby daddy there is a deadbeat baby momma!
Neither one of the 2 genders is better than the other. I feel that we need to stop pointing the finger at one another and look down to see the ones who are really being affected by every ones immaturity.
How can you walk out of someones life and never once look back to see the pain in their eyes, wipe the tears off their cheek, put a bandage on their boo boo, or tuck them into bed at night and tell them there's no monsters under the bed? How can you allow yourself to disappoint someone who never asked to be here? These little ones never asked to come here and be mistreated lied too or left abused and abandoned so why must they suffer? Life is what you make it and these little ones need our help to become the best that they can possibly be... You can not give up on them and than be upset when they turn out to be someone you disapprove of. A unguided child will be a unguided adult.
Mothers You carry this child for 9months. This little person is apart of you for however many months you carry them. How do you have them and than just walk away from them and leave them? How can you let someone else care for the one that was in you for these months as you party hang out and not have a worry in the world. How would you feel if the world turned their back on you and you had no one love you care for you or made you feel like you do not matter.
How can you abandon you child and never provide anything for them or even send a card or anything. This goes for both Males and Females the same way one Gender can walk up and leave the child the other will do the same.
Sitting at home letting life pass you by as you complain about it.... How is this possible? You sit at home collect Cash Assistance for your child and Food stamps do not work and never have worked and yet you complain that you have nothing to do or that you have no where to go?! UmMm how about School and Work? These options are always available. How is it that Unemployed individuals whom are not trying to do anything with their selves get more assistance than those individuals who Work go to School and try their hardest to provide for their child/family? I do not understand how society works but it sure does teach you that Life is Not fair.
Since the age of 20 I have always worked went to school and tried my hardest to provide for my son. My sons father has never been there for my son and nor has he contributed to anything. I therefore have worked full time, continued on with my schooling, and have showed my son that when you try your hardest anything is possible. My goal is to make sure this little boy has the best life ever even if he doesn't have both parents. One parent can do just as much as 2 parents can. With that said regardless of who has custody of the child every ones main goal should be the child. Not bashing the child's other parent.
If everyone stepped up the plate and hit home runs the world would be a better place. Lets worry about hitting those home runs and being responsible for the ones that need us the most and not leave them sitting in the dugout worrying about their future.
when nothing is the same
What do you do when nothing is the same anymore.
What do you do when you aren't able to explain why nothing is the same anymore.
How can you turn to the one you have always turned to when nothing is the same anymore.
Will you be able to smile and say everything is okay even when Nothing is the Same anymore?
When nothing is the same anymore how do you continue on knowing your the one that didn't change it and want it back to the way it used to be.
How can you be so hurt but yet not know why because nothing is the same anymore.
When nothing is the same what can you change?
Everything went from being something to being nothing and it sorta takes you by surprise because something became nothing and nothing will ever be the same because somewhere something changed.......
* * * it all may seem a bit confusing but if you read between the lines you will get the message* * *
What do you do when you aren't able to explain why nothing is the same anymore.
How can you turn to the one you have always turned to when nothing is the same anymore.
Will you be able to smile and say everything is okay even when Nothing is the Same anymore?
When nothing is the same anymore how do you continue on knowing your the one that didn't change it and want it back to the way it used to be.
How can you be so hurt but yet not know why because nothing is the same anymore.
When nothing is the same what can you change?
Everything went from being something to being nothing and it sorta takes you by surprise because something became nothing and nothing will ever be the same because somewhere something changed.......
* * * it all may seem a bit confusing but if you read between the lines you will get the message* * *
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